Last night, I had a long discussion with my dad about my impending divorce. He is sympathetic and understanding to my views and my position. He mentioned something that gave me food for thought: Divorce has a life of its own. Oftentimes, things happen in a divorce that are both unexpected and unplanned by either party. It would behoove one to keep that in mind when getting divorced. Things don't always go according to plan. That was good for me to hear since I have a set idea on how I want my life to proceed once I am finally single. I have tried to plan for every contingency.
My dad and I discussed what would happen if hubby decided to keep our kid. My dad said he would support me in my preference to have her with me. I told him, though, that I would do everything in my power to make sure hubby doesn't feel like he has to threaten me that way. But if he did, I would take our kid and come to the States. And I would make his life more of a hell than it already is.
We discussed how scary the idea of divorce is. He told me how his divorce went down. We talked for a long time and it was a real comfort to get it all off my chest. It'd been weighing on me the entire visit. That and the fact that I can no longer tolerate hubby's presence.
Lata...
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